Coming into our final week of this #bodypositivechallenge I hope that you have taken the time to sincerely incorporate the challenges, and really tried to change your mindset about your own body. When I first started this challenge, I quoted another blogger, and I want to come back to that quote for our final week: “If women made peace with their bodies, and each other, it would change everything…” Really read that quote and let it sink in. We most definitely are our own biggest critics, but women are also the biggest criticizers of other women! Why is that? Life is not a competition. We are ALL beautiful, and important, and special, and precious!
This week, as we continue all of the past three week’s of challenges, we are also going to take a look at each other. How do we treat other women? Are we overly critical in our minds? Do we gossip with our friends and point out flaws of those around us? Every day this week, I want you to give a completely genuine compliment to another woman who is NOT in your close circle of friends. That woman might not be able to accept a compliment (most of us aren’t good at that), but do it anyway. Give the genuine compliment with a smile. You will make her day whether she expresses that or not.
Women need each other, and we’ve got to stick together! Body image is a struggle for EVERY woman. Even that woman you consider to be beautiful or to have the perfect body – she is struggling with her body image. Your one small act of GENUINE kindness might be just what she needs this day to feel confident in herself. Putting others down will NEVER make us feel better about ourselves, but building others up ALWAYS will!
“If women made peace with their bodies, and each other, it would change everything…” Let’s change our world!
I hope that you’ve been doing the mirror challenge every day for a week now! Don’t stop! That part of the challenge is ongoing…and every time in the future you start to feel that self loathing monster creep up, you can ALWAYS come back to this exercise to help you kick it out of your mind!
This week, we are going to focus on getting rid of those things around us that only fuel our negative body image. I want you to pay close attention this week to what things make you feel. When you are watching tv/movies, think about what the actors make you feel about your body. When you are looking at celebrity news online or reading magazines, are you comparing yourself to what you see (sometimes without even knowing it)? Are all your friends negative body talkers or do they body shame others? Any of these things that we answered yes to are things that we need to purge!
So pay attention this week to the things around you, and make a conscious effort to get rid of those things that only fuel our negative self-talk. You may find that some of these things actually make you feel good about yourself, and that’s great. Keep more of those things around! It’s a process, and it takes time and thought, but we CAN change little things at a time to create a body positive mindset!
Have you heard the phrase “fake it til you make it”? Well that’s what we are going to start doing this week!
Last week we made a list of our best qualities that were not physical in nature. This week we are going to take a good, long look in the mirror. Really look! First of all, point out the features of your body that you like – really point them out to yourself. Remember all the good things you are saying.
Then look again – this time they way you normally look in the mirror. Go ahead and pick yourself apart like you always do (because this is the LAST time you are allowed to do that!). Write down the negative thoughts. Then beside each negative thing you wrote down, write down the positive thing you wish you felt. These positive things are what you are going to start repeating to yourself everyday when you look in the mirror! (example – negative: I hate these thunder thighs! positive: my thighs are beautiful and strong! I can walk and dance and carry things because of these amazing thighs.) I don’t need you to believe it right now. In fact, it will probably feel really silly, awkward and wrong, but we are going to “fake it til we make it”!
Don’t worry, I KNOW this exercise feels really cheesy (I hear that from all my clients), but I also know that it WORKS! The more you tell yourself these positive things about your body, the more the negative will get crowded out. And the more those negative self-talk sessions get pushed out, the more we’ll start to believe the positive! And you know what? Whether you believe it right now or not, it’s the positive that’s TRUE.